About a year and a half ago, on the 20th of December, '09, this troper told her love interest about her feelings (we'll just call him Neon from hereon). Neon told me that "at times, I think I loved you too"... but the problem here was, by the time I told him, Neon had a girlfriend. I regret not telling him sooner - I'd loved him from basically the day we met in '07 - but I'm not bitter. I promised myself I wouldn't get jealous and I wouldn't let it affect our friendship. I'm happy to just have such a wonderful, wonderful person for a friend, and I will support him with everything I have. I don't care that he has a girlfriend; I just want him to be happy in his life. I still love him to this day, but who am I to break up a relationship?

This troper just recently confessed to his best friend. Unfortunately, she doesn't feel the same way. When we discussed it, she told me that even if she did love me she cares about me too much as a friend to start a relationship. I told her that having a happy relationship was more important than having a relationship with me. And even though I know it'll never happen between us, I'll do anything to make her happy.

This is currently being played straight and subverted by both my girlfriend and I respectively. We're on a half-year breakup because we each need to gain some perspective on our relationship. (I need to date someone else before getting married and she needs to learn to appreciate me and be less selfish.) While she accepted the breakup based on her wanting me to have no regrets being with her, I want her to feel like crap and miss me, so she understands just what it is that she would be giving up in the long run. She already says "what would I do without you?" Now I want her to experience that and do her best never to experience it again.

I know its no right of mine to judge of others. I know I probably shouldn't say anything. But seriously? Your taking advantage of her love for you, hurting her purposely, and basically going "Oh and by the way for a half year I'm going to be dating another woman BEFORE WE GET MARRIED." You seem to be the one who's selfish, she's willing to give you your desire while she watches you for an entire half year be with another woman and your reasoning being that she simply needs to appreciate you more. I think its the other way around and you yourself aren't appreciating the fact she's still willing to be with you.

Seconded

Thirded

Basically, what the hell is wrong with you, sir?

That OP is going to be one of the few, and if we(the other Tropers) are lucky, the only person to not get a hug on this page. The poor lady deserves someone a lot better than someone like you. Have a good day, sir! You've reminded me exactly why we have the trope {{Humans Are Bastards}}.

This Troper had to let this out of his system. After a few abortive attempts at dating in middle school, he has been trying to work up the nerve to tell the school Main/GenkiGirl he loves her for the past couple of years now. Unfortunately, she already has a boyfriend who's good-looking, smart, and almost supernaturally nice. Rather than risk ruining the friendship we have and break up two people who are much better matches for each other than I am, I'm simply content to admire from afar. It's probably just as well; even if she was single I probably couldn't work up the nerve to tell her. Man, I suck.

... Are you free this Saturday?

This troper feels the need to share some things with the above troper. This troper met a gorgeous Caramel skinned {{Meganekko}} in college. Of course, she had a boyfriend. Said troper loved this woman damn near from the moment he laid eyes on her, but he swore an oath to himself that he would simply the best friend he could to her and never even tell her how he felt until she and her boyfriend were safely married off. Except... they break up a few years later. Who do you think she eventually turns to??? Oh, yeah, and don't worry about working up nerve to tell her. These things have a way of saying themselves...

This troper thinks that the above example is pure luck. (which may be the best reason to try, depending on how lucky you feel.)

@/GamerGuy has the same problem as the first guy. I managed to ask her out on a date but got shot down. Now I'm starting to turn slowly emo.

Don't lose hope boya. You'll find someone.

Subverted with this troper. I really was happy when my ex started dating my then-best friend because I didn't want him, and he helped her through a very, very hard time in her life. They were happy together and I was thrilled for them. Then he started treating her like crap and became emotionally abusive, and was scared and threatened whenever I hung out with her, because I was his ex. Then he pretty much gave her an ultimatum: him, or me. She went with him. And all of this was while he tried to sabotage my love life at every oppurtun... yeah, I would never have dated him or been happy with him dating my friend if I had known.

Played straight twice this year. I kept meeting the most beautiful, amazing people... who go with somebody else. But I can't be happy for someone I care about when they are happy, I didn't deserve them in the first place.

Throughout High School, This Troper was in love with his best friend, even - no - ESPECIALLY after she started dating someone else. I tried to convince myself to abide by this trope, but I'm more suited to being TheDeterminator than Rick Blaine, so eventually I settled for the IfYouEverDoAnythingToHurtHer speech. It rather satisfyingly scared him shitless, and when the story got back to her she thanked me for being there for her. Better than nothing, I suppose, and I think we understand each other much better now.

The girl I love with all my heart and soul has left me for another... and I find myself honestly thinking that he's better than I am at making her happy, so how egoistic should I be to try to win her back? I believe that choosing my happiness over the happiness of the one I love is the antithesis of true love. It's only sad that this way everyone wins but me. Oh, by the way, she knows everything.

oh, did I mention we still share a flat? (not enough money for me to look for another place, and it's not as bad as it sounds.. once you get used to salt rubbed into your wounds. A lot.)

This bisexual troper has a baffling kind of crush on/bond with her straight best friend, forged over years of shared experience and interests, good understanding of each other and standing up for each other through thick and thin. I know that there is quite frankly no possibility of anything other than a water-tight platonic friendship between us, and I'm quite content with that. I want to be a Godmother to one of her kids if she ever has children, though, since I'll end up dropping in to wherever she ends up living frequently enough, to catch up and chat about whatever, and I need to usefully employ my maternal instincts ''somehow.'' Which on reflection sounds both slightly sweet and kind of creepy. Eh. At least she'll have a devotely loyal friend to help her out in life. Did I mention already that I have realised how weirdly creepy this must be? Because I have.

I'd swear I know both you and the friend... sorry, it just slipped out.

This Troper knows how you feel. I used to like someone so much it'd be considered creepy, and it was one of my (I think) straight best friends... but when she began dating one our my other best guyfriends after he asked her out, I eventually let go, since I just wanted her to be happy.

This trooper is in a similar situation. She loves her straight friend, but hasn't come out and isn't planning to because it would disturb said crush. Her comfort is more important than mine. * @/NeoSilverThorn was recently asked by one of his old (female) high school friends if he'd loved her back when they were in high school. The answer, naturally, was yes. She apologized for being blind, and then delivered a metaphyiscal gut punch by admitting that I'd been her first love. She tells me this after she's been married for nearly a year. As you can probably guess, I just want her to be happy.

That made me tear up a bit...

Call him evil, but @/AirshipCanon has sworn to prevent being the one who "gives up" should this trope ever need to come into play. Of course, he's a {{determinator}}.

@/{{Nomic}} fell in love (somehting he wa spretty sure he was incabable of even doing) with a girl in his high school class, but he knew that she wouldn't find him attractive, nor was he quite sure what he would do after confessing his love for her (she probably wouldn't have wanted t be friends with him after that). She was also incredibly nice to him (she was really nice to everybody, really) and helped him get over a rather depressing period in his life, so as a sign of his graditude he decided that if he couldn't confess his love, then atleast he could make her happy by fulfilling her every command. She did't really need any commands fulfilled, tho, but she did remain his friend through high school (not an awfully close friend, but since this troper didn't have much friends he really apreciated it) and doesn't seem to mind him calling her a few times a year to ask how she's doing.

Oh joy. They have one for my life. Here's how it goes. I'm female, and bisexual and back in 8th grade, I realized that I had fallen in love with one of my best friends (also female). Now, for a time, I had kept the whole "I'm rainbowlicious" to myself, and, eventually, I decided I would come out of the closet first before I did anything else. Well, when I did this, I was given the "Good for you?" kind of response, but said friend also told me, "Just don't think you'll ever convert me to your ways, cause I'm straight" or something to that effect. Now that that's out of the way, fast forward about 2 years, and I've managed to keep my feeling to myself by just remembering what I was told, and knowing there was no point in letting my feelings out, and I really do cherish this friend. Well, imagine my surprise as one day I go to said friend's house, and see one of our mutual friends (also female), cuddling together, and I'm suddenly stuck with the realization that if they're not already, it's a very small matter of time before they start dating. And I was right. So now, two things occur. First, I get to know how heartbreak feels like for the first time, and I realize that, to even more pain, I'd been more or less fooling myself with lies for the better part of almost 3 years. Anyways, it's been... 3 years now since they started dating, and I'm stuck in this trope. I'm the one that my friend always goes to when she needs to rant about problems in her life, so I know she's upset at said girlfriend, and how she always blows off dates and never wants to share anything or talk often with her. Recently, my friend found out about my feelings for her, but in a long way I've said "I don't care about me, I just want you to be happy." and said it many times, and I get to be miserable, because I honestly don't know why, with all the complaining, she still loves her. For me, wall banger doesn't begin to describe it. I hate it, I want her for myself, but I want her to be happy. Goodie for me. *headdesk* Oh, and did I forget to mention that the three of us are trying to be roommates in college. Yea, my life sucks.

I'm so sorry! Oh my god, it must hurt so much! *hug* @/{{Joerc 45}} knows what that's like. I am bisexual as well, and it hurts when you realize that it also means 2x the rejection. T_T

Well, fuck. I guess the friend zone extends to both genders. So sorry to hear that.

Goodness, I'm so sorry. Have a hug, sister.

Aw, sweetie. I know how it feels. I've been in the same situation, and about at the same age. Realized that I really, REALLY liked one of my female best friends, which made me come to terms with my bisexuality. Problem is, she was straight, and though I never told her, she still ditched me a few months after my realization due to other issues. Which made it doubly hard. And then I fell for another, much more suitable friend of mine, (who is still one of my best friends, so I needn't worry there) and she seemed to reciprocate my hints of feelings... and then one of the dudes in our group of best buds asked her out, and they're still going after a year. :/ Keep on keeping on, girl, there's other fish in the sea.

@/MisterAlways had a girlfriend. Yeah, believe it or not. And we were happy, oh yeah. Point was, her parents were moving to Russia, and naturally, she had to come along (being about 17). We spent about a week exchanging "I'll miss you"s and "I hope I'll see you again someday"s. But no " We'll write each other" or " We'll call each other". Why? She said that, to save both me and herself from heartache, she planned to break it off with me before leaving.

God damn, let me tell you, I did NOT care for that. I personally didn't care for how long I'd have to wait - she was worth it. I didn't tell her that, though, so as to not make her feel guilty. So we broke up the day before she left (the breakup involved lots of booze and kissing). And I know she's in Moscow, not thinking about me, probably hooked up with some Ivan and having the time of her life. And I'm here. Hoping she's happy.

... *brohug*

This troper has been genuinely in love with a girl from school for about 5 years. I knew we wouldn't work out, even if she were to share the feeling. This troper decided to do the next best thing and do whatever possible to keep her happy. Early on, she had no friends because she was a {{meganekko}} in a society where it is frowned upon, and anyone who says non public schools have nicer students are lying. Over the years, people came to treat her nicer, and I was coming to be less and less necessary. In an odd twist, I helped her soon to be boyfriend actually become her boyfriend when he came to me asking for help. Sure it felt like stabbing myself, but it was so satisfying in the end to see her happy. I went up until my senior year before actually telling her, and that's because I felt she had the right to know. Sure, it Kamikaze'd our friendship, making it nothing more than awkward hellos occasionally, but I feel it was necessary for any chance of me moving on.

You, sir, are a credit to the human race. We commend you and swell with pride in your presence. May you live long and continue to be awesome.

This Troper seconds the above statement.My regards,brother.

This reminds me a lot of my own past. I was in love with a girl who a great many people at my school disliked owing to her intelligence and a general (not totally inaccurate) feeling that she got preferential treatment from teachers. She used to confide in me because I was one of the few people who wasn't horribly judgemental, and I enjoyed her company because she was (and to be totally fair, still is) the only person who I felt understood me at all. I also helped her relationship get started, in the Upper Sixth, as she had received a text message from a classmate of ours asking her out, but was extremely reluctant to respond owing to general distrust of people and a fear it would affect her school work. I had personally hated this guy since the second I had met him in Year 7, and he was your standard arrogant shallow worm who survived on charm alone, but I knew she was interested in him and felt that she deserved a chance of happiness, which deep down I knew I could never provide as I knew that I was not attractive enough for her to ever honestly love me back, and my natural cynicism makes me less than fun to be around sometimes. So, feeling physically pained the entire time, but wearing a mask of enthusiasm, I convinced her to return his text. They began seeing each other, and while I was happy that she found some joy, I wanted nothing to do with this guy, who had mocked me for 5 years, which was complicated by the fact that she always brought him along to every social event. Furthermore, her new found happiness and the wider acceptance that being with this guy brought meant that she had much less need to confide in me, and as such we saw less and less of each other, and the last few months of Sixth Form I felt the loneliest I had in years. Owing to living many miles apart, we barely see each other at the best of times, and a noticeable pattern is that she only gets in contact when her on-again off-again romance with the previously mentioned guy is in an "off" phase. The only regret I have is that she isn't really happy at all, but nonetheless I feel she is happier than she would have been otherwise.

Cue {{Manly Tears}}. That was moving, bro. I'm so sorry. :( Come here, man. *hug*

Oh man, that sounds painful! Here, ill give you a hug~!!! *HUG*

This troper seems to have a weird immunity to jealousy because of this. Then again, she's absolutely convinced she's got no chance with anyone, so she's nowhere close to vying for someone's love anyway.

How sad. I hope you find that you are worthy, you just need to realize that and not put yourself down so much. :)

Same here, this troper was dumped on Christmas day, over the phone, in his first relationship with anyone. My response? Oh... Merry Christmas and good luck with so and so (I forget his name).

Damn, but that's harsh. *hugs*

This troper has been on the receiving end of this. Great guy, motorcycle, complete flirt for a one girl guy, otaku with an extensive anime collection as well as techy, and I met him a month before I was leaving town for three years for school. If I hadn't been leaving, we would have been dating. We both agreed that long distance wouldn't work for either of us, rather it wouldn't be the same as if we were both here. One of the last things he said to me was if I found a great guy over there, and ESPECIALLY if he's better than him, to go date him and basically have fun out there...because he wanted me to be happy. It hurts both ways.

This troper teared up a little after reading the above tale, plus thinking over how this trope was invoked by a very close friend - if not my best friend. Just earlier this year, I had confessed to said best friend, who took it pretty easily. Although, for the week or so after that, I was fretting over what she thought of me. After explaining a few things a bit better to her, a friend stepped in and decided to help the two of us out, ending with her confessing that she felt the same way for me. Cue tears on my end, as well as an I Want My Beloved to Be Happy moment from her. She told me not to hold myself up over her and to go for dating people I could actually be with. Due to one thing or another, it wasn't exactly easy for the two of us to be together unless long-distance was okay. Needless to say, I'm still very much in love and I'd gladly wait until we could actually have a chance at something.

This (female) troper is in love with her (also female) best friend. Said friend is completely boy crazy, 100% straight and 110% against the idea of two girls being together. While it really hurts not to tell her I love her, if I did it would alienate her and she may not even be able to talk to me anymore... and my friend has told me that if she didn't have me, she would probably not be able to cope, so I know I'll probably stand and wait forever. So, yeah... she has a really bad home life and I'm the one she'll call, crying in the middle of the night to talk to. She's completely convinced that she'll never find someone who'll love her and ech time she says it I have to stop myself from screaming "I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU!" at her.

I have a crush on an old friend of mine. I tried to get a date with her a few years ago...and she shot me down. I then became the annoying version of DoggedNiceGuy for a few months. Eventually, I realized that my attempts were annoying her, so I stopped trying and have since been trying to repress that crush, and hide all signs of it from my friends.

This trope is in love with her good friend and feels like someone is punching her whenever he's with the girl he likes but seeing the smile he has when he's with her lessens the pain somehow.

I get what you're saying. "So what they're not smiling ''at you,'' they're ''happy.'' And that's what really matters."

@/{{Caiaphasthesympathist}}, despite generally being a StalkerWithACrush to the girls he likes, actually manages to control how far he's willing to take the stalking business. And when he actually gets some significant communication with them, he limits their relationship to JustFriends. The one girl he has ever befriended properlyand loved turned out to actually have feelings for him as well, but they all came out at the wrong time. He's just tried to treat her as a friend since then, despite having some hard feelings for her that won't die. That particular event triggered his transformation into an IneffectualLoner, for which he actually feels compelled to thank her.

About two years ago, I went out on a couple dates with this girl I met at a private four-year university. On the second date, I took her and one of her friends to see Spider-Man 3. Just before the movie started, they were both talking and the girl I had a crush on said something about already having a boyfriend. I kept my chin up and acted like a gentleman when I took them both to dinner. I dropped them back off at their dorm and I was too depressed to call her again. A handful of months later, I tried to call her again, but she didn't pick up. I left her ''a lot'' of messages, which is something I know I shouldn't have done. In the last message I left her, I told her how I always had a crush on her and I hope that she's happy with whoever she's with because she deserves the best.

This one night, I was browsing Facebook and saw a picture of my former crush who my stamped and spit to my heart by running off with another woman after I mended him from suicidal depression. In said picture was also this very woman. I felt so angry that I wanted to punch my fist through the screen, but - for some reason - I took a closer look, and I saw that he really was happy with her. He loved her. And she loved him. And if I wouldn't have been there, he might've killed himself before he would've gotten a chance to meet her. I understood, that it isn't important does he ever thank or apologize, cause I know in my heart, than by making him happy with someone else instead of being a clingy psycho, I've done him greater good than I've ever could have done by being his girlfriend. I just hope he understands someday how much I gave and how much he gained because of it. And if he doesn't....I just hope that his love for her never diminishes.

This troper has seemingly taken this trope on as his moral duty, firstly some backstory, Tropers friend A was rejected by Tropers friend B who This Troper just happens to be madly in love with. Later that week This Troper had the option of either hanging out with A to cheer him up or hanging out with B, alone at her house with some drinks and some movies, he chose A. Roughly 2 months later A falls in love with C who falls in love back, it's worth mentioning that I have been madly in love with C even longer than I had with B, (I do this kind of thing a lot.) So when C asked if she should go for A, I said yes of course, you should do whatever it takes to make you happy, and she did. Even later along the line and still being in love with B I decide to tell her at a party, during the party I meet D, who (as far as This troper, who is a straight male can tell) is pretty much perfect. Of course being the manly man who knows what he wants I introduce the two of them, They're dating now. I found out yesterday that B liked me too before she met D. Minus man points.

I haven't read all of the ones on here but dude, that's rough.

You've done good. You are pretty much my hero now, sir. I salute the crap out of you, you tough Love Martyr you...

This Troper got a crush on a sweet boy in her class in grade 10 (still does, actually), going so far to ask him to go to the formal with her. Her friend then asked her what she would do if the girl that hung out with him a lot tried to flirt with him- make my crush known, or sit on the sidelines. Of course, said friend was hoping for the first option, making her face fall when I told her rather quietly that I wanted him to be happy.

This Troper once cared deeply about a girl in high school, but bowed out. Although he did get a nice {{If You Ever Do Anything to Hurt Her}} speech: "If you ever do anything to hurt her, one of two things will happen: if you're lucky, they'll never find the body. If you're unlucky, well, your dad's works at a slaughterhouse, so he should fine."

This Troper has a very important guy to her ,just not in THAT way.When a {{Clingy Jealous Girl}} started to stalk him, I...changed.If she started to hurt him...she would be very,''very'' sorry.Ok,she did hurt him, but he ended it all by himself. She is still stalking him, but she learned what fear is already.

This troper is mentally gearing himself up for this. There is a lady I am deeply in love with (and who is in love with me) who, through a combination of multiple cases of incredibly poor timing and a three-year misunderstanding-and-pride induced silent period, has always been with another guy that she also cared/cares for, whenever we start to realize how much we feel for each other. By this point, we know those feelings between us are not going away -- we've already done the worst we could do to our relationship, and recovered only to find that we're even more in love than before. But thanks to that three year period, she's ''engaged'', and she does love him too. And I feel obligated to encourage their relationship, because her fiancé was a friend and nobody else is willing to give him the benefit of the doubt whenever they have a problem. All the while, he's paranoid that she's going to cheat on him with me. (A not entirely unreasonable fear, though we've not actually done such.) Much as I'd like to be in his place when the wedding comes, I'm getting ready to stand well away.

I vowed long ago to make sure my friends are happy NO MATTER WHAT (I had few friends when I was younger, so I am really devoted to the people who are nice enough to be friends with me). Unfortunately, this devotion went too far at one point when a girl I was friends with stopped talking to me for reasons I have lost sleep trying to figure out (I'm not being dramatic, I really have. Not because I loved her but because her motive for doing what she did is really confusing). In an attempt to do what would make her happy I dropped out of high school (I figured she didn't want me around anymore, plus I hated school) and enrolled in the local college (just because I'm devoted to my friends doesn't mean I'll sell out my whole future for them. There are some things I just won't do for anyone). After that I became less devoted (nearly selling my life out was the last straw).

This trope is the cause of what is probably my only real regret. A few years ago I met an awesome girl. She was smart, funny, knew martial arts, the conversation flowed brilliantly and she hit almost every single GeekyTurnOn I have. If she'd been a PaleSkinnedBrunette or just a brunette I'd have probably proposed on our first face to face meeting. However, she was carrying some seriously male related baggage and I could tell that what she needed at that point in her life wasn't a boyfriend but a really close friend and so I threw myself head long into it. Last year we had so many I Didn't Mean To Turn You On moments that it was just ridiculous and she admitted that she had feelings for me too at one point. And on occasion still did! Problem is, I was in school five hours away and neither of us wanted a long distance relationship so we have settled for being just friends and now she's dating somebody else that she routinely says she loves. The weird thing is she once said that this troper deserved better than her so I guess this is almost a subversion of this trope since it looks like she pulled a IJustWantMyBelovedToBeHappy too.

This trope is why @/{{Crion87}} broke up finally with his on-again off-again girlfriend, also due to his knowledge of that he had cheated on her (though she had forgiven him). Although @/{{Crion87}} sucks and will probably never get a chance at anyone again unless he pays for it, he did what he had to do and he hopes that she has a happy life.

Shortly after I turned Fourteen, I met this guy, a friend of an acquaintance. He was short, blonde hair, skinny, I thought he was a girl until he started talking to me and I finally caught his thoroughly masculine name. I knew I liked him right away, when he started talking about Batman and Nine Inch Nails and being a vegetarian. We started hanging out, having these long conversations that would begin after dinner and go until one or two in the morning about completely random things, laughing and confiding in each other all the way. We saw movies together, played video games, we knew everything about each other. Whenever I'd get angry about something, which was often because I was so temperamental back then, he'd put his arms around me and tell me he wouldn't let go until I calmed down/regained rational thought. He held me while I bawled the night my family had a cancer scare, and I tried to return the gesture when he realized his friend was going to die, though I fumbled horribly. He sat up with me when I had an awful case of the stomach flu, and I sat up and guarded him when he claimed he was going to kill himself over a little stress. That night I cried, begged him to stay with me, finally telling him that if he really went through with his plans to throw himself off the bridge near here, I'd leap into the river after him and die, too, because I could never imagine life without him. He didn't respond, just staring and finally agreeing to stay amoung the living. I still see him once in a blue moon, and last I heard he was with some girl and our conversations stay short and to the point. We tried to watch a movie once, but he had to leave fifteen minutes into it because he made reservations for dinner with his girlfriend. There have been other guys, but I've never felt the same with them, and on the other end of the spectrum I Still dream about him after all these years, and he crosses my mind daily. So, now he's studying to be a Veterinarian, I'm going to be a Forensic Pathologist, and I guess we've moved on, and I wish him luck and happiness, and I hope he knows that I still smile when I think of our late-night small-town escapades.

Whenever this troper has a crush, she usually wishes he'll just get with someone else and be happy. This may be because she doesn't like the idea of actual relationships and believes she might be asexual. Essentially I ship people in real life. Is that weird?

This troper experienced it last year. He fell in love with this girl. He loved everything about her. They had alot of things in common, she was the nicest person that you could ever meet, and she had a smile that is indescribable. He told her of his feelings and she rejected him, telling him the two should just be friends. He was heart-broken. He tried to get over it and was becoming sort of a Shipper On Deck for her and whoever she liked just to see her happy. To this day, he still supports her but still wonders what would've happened if he got together with her.

Kulture here. My first relationship was long distance, and she spent the entire time with other men, and I was treated as something of a morality pet, someone to make her laugh and tell her how much I loved her. And I really did. When we first got togeather, she was already with another man, and although our love was apparently mutual, I told her to go with him, live her life and forget about me. Fast forward 4 years, we've been on-and-off the entire time and I've only just learned to let it go, and I don't care about all the cheating and the deceit, because at least I finally gave someone even a visage of happiness.

Part zwei: The girl I'm currently in love with has turned out to be Tsundere on a scale where she's apparently driven many of her friends away, as far as my intel can say (I'm highly militarised in action), and I'd give anything just to make her smile, because it's the only think that truely makes me happy anymore. Despite my best efforts, she's always busy on the days I suggest we go out for drinks with mutual friends,etc.

I bought her a locket not long ago as a Birthday present, and the conversation that followed (all 3 sentences of it) was pure bliss for this hopeless romantic troper.

It may not be much, but I made 'praline cake' (diabetes in a cake-tray, made with broken biscuits and enough chocolate to drop a T-rex into a diabetic coma) using my grandmother's recipe. Hopefully she'll be in class (She is an off-again, on-again member of this troper's A2-level Biology course) tomorrow.

Footnote: yes I know it's very Yandere behaviour, and can be seen as insanely creepy, but I've essentially spent the last 18 years alone or in emotionally abusive relationships. If I can't indulge my hopeless romanticism, I'll lose what little sanity I have left.

Update: Mission failed. Time to call it quits before I cause any more damage.

This troper just had to smile and walk away from a very cool girl and the idiot that could make her happy.

Inverted by me: I had a bit of a temper tantrum at my ex when she dumped me for the biggest asshole I knew, who happened to be a good friend of mine a bit before that. He had already been in a relationship with her, and had cheated on her with two girls at the same time. What I told her, when she told me, went something like this: "There are two people you've gone out with who has ever made you happy, from what I saw, and you dumped the first one for me. Now you're going back to the first person who ever truly made you miserable... because he apologized? I'm finding it hard to see what I originally saw in you. You really hate yourself, don't you." I feel bad about it now, especially when I found out that the next morning she dumped him, hopefully because she regained her senses. Doesn't help that I still care about her.

It was my senior year of high school and I had made a huge mistake of realizing my feelings for my best friend who we'll call "Marty Stu" for the sake of it. We had been best friends since freshman year and leaned on each other in troubled times. But anyways, Marty had his eye on this one girl we'll call "Wendy" for the heck of it. This made me a little on the jealous side needless to say. Things develop between them to a point where Marty needs to make a decision. Cut to late May where the two of us are hanging out. He tells me that he's thinking about not pursuing it further. It seemed like it was at a stalemate. A couple hours later, Wendy calls Marty and is asking to evoke a raincheck on the date that they never really went on due to whatever excuse Wendy had for the day. I'm driving, btw, and Marty's car was in the shop. He asks me if I could pick her up along the way and head to the movie theater. I have to think about this for a few and ultimately, I decided that is happiness was more important than whatever hurt I was going to feel at that moment so I agreed to. And let me tell you -- it hurt pretty effing bad but you know something? Despite how everything panned out (they eventually dated and I ended up losing contact w/ my friend a few years after high school), I'd still do it again. Maybe I'm an idiot, but at the time, his friendship was my crutch in those dwindling weeks before graduation.

This troper and his ex-girlfriend had a messy break-up, but they're still close friends despite it all. They've pledged to always help each other along with respective guy/girl troubles in the future.

This troper has vowed to do this with anyone he meets and has an interest in from now on. He's rather bad at relationships, so he figures he'll spare them the heartbreak and just be the best friend he can.

@/TidalWave17 recently fell in love over the past year with a girl from a different school. She was kind, sweet, and beautiful. Everything I have been looking for in a person but was never able to find. I did my best to try and impress her, but she fell in love with my best friend. What did I do? Fight? Argue? Conceive a diabolical plan to tear them apart? No. I wished them good luck and eternal happiness. Even if its at my own expense.

This troper has done this twice. The first girl had a boyfriend and I could tell she loved him so I just decided to be friends with her. The second, I could tell she wasn't happy with me so I introduced her to her current love, a girl.

This geeky, DeadpanSnarker and apparent NietzscheWannabe high schooler troper with a minimal social life wrangled in his first proper girlfriend a few months back, the courtship of which equated to her telling one of his friends that she was interested in him and his friends promptly making an effort into forcing him into speaking to her, and allowing things to develop from there. BetterThanItSounds. Anyway, as it transpired, she was kind, considerate, self-conscious in the nicest way possible, decently intelligent, read books and ''played MMORPGS'' - cue geeky turnons. Apart from this troper not knowing WTF he was doing half the time, it was great. As it happens, though, nobody's perfect. It seemed that at the time she couldn't properly sustain affectionate emotions for someone and "fell out of love" pretty quickly, prompting this troper to obsess over his negative qualities, slip into a state of unadulterated emo and insist she found someone better. Now, after two more tries, we're in a very tenuous "complicated" state, which essentially involves me waiting until she feels ready to get back into a relationship, and she's pulling it on me, telling me to GTFO. Not a chance.

@/JohnnyBGoode is currently TheStraightWillAndGrace with a girl three years older. We know each other really well, and despite the fact that she's out of school and I'm not, we talk every day. We're probably the best friends out of any of our social circle. However, this troper also likes her. I may have even told her I liked her, but we agreed to stay friends. Since I know she's not looking for a boyfriend and even if she was I'm not her type anyway, I'm sorta stuck in an IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy situation. I've decided I'll settle for the IfYouEverDoAnythingToHurtHer speech, because despite being much smaller and/or less threatening than her prospective boyfriends, I do mean it.

In a rather odd case (as this troper tends to be), the girl says she loves me. However, she says she's not ready to be with someone she loves, so is with someone she likes, but doesn't love, who likes her back. Already weird. Now throw in my trying to convince her she'd be happier if she just forgot about me and learned to love the guy she's currently with. She adamantly refuses. So instead she's consistently torn between feeling guilty for caring about someone other than him to feeling guilty about being in a relationship with someone other than me.

Trickymander here. I fell in love with this girl and became a stalker with a crush(Review the entry with the near miss bathroom incedent) . about a year when this crush started, he discovered tha she was engaged. At first, this trooper felt his heart broke and went into a near state of depression followed by a if I cannot have you moment(I got better). But after a while, he felt that he should not press the matter and let her live her life and whished her good luck with her boy friend.

This Troper had this hapen to him not hours ago. There's this girl he's been in love with since the beginning of the school year. W go to the same Anime club and a mutual friend keeps trying to get her to reveal her boyfriend. This Troper was apathetic for the most of it but said if she wanted to tell someone who could keep a secret, tell Troper. As he's leaving, she walks up and whispers "It's unofficially *insert name here* ." He doesn't feel sad that one of two girls he's in love with (Long Story) is dating someone, while he's never even held hands. No. He wants her to be happy. And he'll have to give the IfYouEverDoAnythingToHurtHer speech next time he sees the boyfriend.

When this troper was in 4th grade, she got a crush on one of her best friends. It lasted until 7th grade, until she realized the guy had a big crush on another girl. Then, she told to herself that, even if he wouldn't return her feelings, she would try to help him get his happiness (I know, Lame Pun). Now, three years and a boyfriend later, she wonders if the feelings never dissappeared.

This troper broke up with the girl who was possibly the great love of her life because she knew that said girl could never love troper as much as troper loved her, at least not romantically. Life sucks.

This troper met a guy in 7th grade who became part of her close-knit group of friends. We had a rivalry thing going at first. It took me a year to figure out how I felt about him, roughly halfway through 8th grade. On the last day of school, I finally worked up the courage to tell him...only to see him holding hands with a friend of mine. My best friend set them up(she had no idea I liked him). Since then, he's had at least four serious relationships(lasting years), and also dated ''every other female friend of mine,'' except for my best friend(he asked, she said no). The current girl knows and won't allow me around him. They're been together about 2 years. My best friend still asks me why I stay silent. Even if I can't stand the girl he's with, she puts a smile on his face.

This troper met a boy in grade five, (AUS standards) and accidently developed a mutual crush with him. However, he was being persued by a friend of hers, and so they never talked in primary school. Flash forwards to highschool, and after a misunderstanding, he dated other girls, on and off. Flash forwards again to year ten, and, whilst he's away in russia - (note, they're still not speaking, not friends despite having crazy amounts of mutual friends and lots in common) she starts dating another guy, finally. Cue him coming back, and this troper's relationship becoming much more...cemented. Cue her telling him in the worst possible accident, and flash forwards another two years to year 12, where he's finally met somebody who makes him smile again. As hard as it can be sometimes, she pretends to ignore him and deal with it...because the new girl makes him happy. Timur K, if you ever read this... I'm sorry, and I love you.

OT; A year later. He's at a uni in our state capital, about half an hour away - via train - away. I've said sorry (kinda) and there seems to be an attraction, but I don't want to make him hideously unhappy by screwing up. Again.

There may be another trope that describes this better, but this troper had a very uplifting, if somewhat rocky, relationship with a girl for over a year. We broke up, giving that classic "we'll be back together if we're meant to be" line that never actually happens. In fact, years later, it seemed my very presence was making her uneasy, bringing up a past she was having trouble embracing. So...I alienated her, starting arguments I didn't even believe in, even in some cases where she was clearly in the right, all in a massive XanatosGambit to push me out of her life and make her out to be TheWoobie so she would inherit my old circle of friends. Sure enough, about a year ago, she stopped talking to me and seemed to be one of the most popular people in the aforementioned friend circle, and in all likelihood has forgotten about my existence altogether. She's in another state, going to college, more or less pursuing another life entirely, so it's a little late to apologize. All the same...one of the last things we argued about was an embarrassing incident that she accused me of setting up; it wasn't part of the XanatosGambit, and indeed it was the one thing I swore never to do. Had I not been orchestrating that XanatosGambit, I would have been more than happy to tell her, "I didn't do it, but a screw-up of mine is the reason it happened. Go ahead and be mad at me, K.K., I really don't blame you." I could always send her the apology over Facebook or something, or I could let her move on and find happiness in others.

Despite, or perhaps because, this female troper is a biromatic asexual, this has been an ongoing occurrence, but two examples stand out in my mind. One is a close male friend who I admire a great deal. Then he came out to me as gay, and I was the first person he came out to because he trusted me that much. The other is a female friend who had flirted with bisexuality in the past, but was rooted firmly as straight by the time I met her. I know I have absolutely no chance of winning over either of them, so I'm resolved to love them as friends. When either of them find someone, there is a great deal of IfYouEverDoAnythingToHurtHer going on, even though I'm a woman.

This troper has a crush on one of her (male) friends, but she doesn't seem to mind if he likes other girls (or boys). Possibly because she think it's so cute.

This troper had a very fun example happen not too long ago. See, she's pretty dang asexual. Somehow, though, in her first year of high school she happened to become friends with not one, not two, but three boys, all of whom she could actually see herself in a relationship with. This was a big deal, and still is. Their names happened to be Kyle, Alex, and Tom, and are all still friends with her to this day. First Kyle, well, he got a girlfriend about four months before school ended, and she supported it as the girl was extremely sweet and kind and made him very happy. It hurt, but she did. Also, he told her this just as she had finally gotten up the courage to ask him out. Now, a month after Kyle gets a girlfriend something happens. This Troper notices her friend Alex is giving one of her friends puppy-dog eyes all the time, and is always trying to drag her into the conversation, always making a point of listening to everything she says. See, Alex was an extremely shy guy, and this was not normal behavior for him. This Troper had introduced the two of them, and after asking her female friend if she'd go out with Alex, this troper confronted him and told him to ask her out. When he asked her how this troper knew he liked the girl, she caught herself saying "Because you act the way around her, that I act around you." in time to change it to "Because you act like a puppy and follow her around all the time." The girl, who is one of my best friends later told me about this, getting momentarily angry until I told her that both of them were too shy to ever ask each other out without me doing that. She agreed. At this point, it's good to point out that both of the guys so far, and the girl, had no idea of my feelings at all. Last, comes Tom. Not a week after Alex and the girl are fixed together and happy, Tom drags me out of our little gang's hangout after school to talk to me alone. Now, Tom and I are really, really good friends. I'm just about the only person he talks to about all the stuff he's been through, and all his insecurities, pretty much the only person he goes to for advice. So this was completely normal. However, this time he wants to talk about a girl. This girl, he says, is gorgeous, and funny, and amazing. These are compliments that he throws my way so often, and that I'd never really heard him call anyone else. In my head I'm just screaming "YESYESYES!!!". Turns out, the girl was our mutual friend Corinne. And because, like I said, I'm the only person he really tells things to and the only one he really asks for advice, he was doing just that. Because he didn't think he was good enough for her and wanted me to tell him if he had a chance and how to ask her out. I gave him my best, honest advice, and waited until I got home to break down crying. The next day when I went to school, I sort of noticed that Corinne had a crush on Tom, in the same way I had noticed Alex had had a crush on the other girl (which will remain nameless because she is also a troper, and even if I know she doesn't read the troper tales, I wouldn't want her to see this and piece two and two together). So, Corinne and Tom were a couple by the end of the day, and still are one of the happiest couples I know. Both of them never knew, and will never know any of this. Everyone involved but me didn't know, and that's how it's going to stay, for the rest of my life. I'm ok with that now, though. It only hurts a little bit every once in a while, but mostly because the dog was kicked while it was already down.

This troper actually grew out of a crush when he discussed it with his sister. Long story short, she starts dating an old friend of mine, I wonder whether to continue trying to give across signs, I ask my sister, she basically says that my friend's a hard act to follow when compared to me, I decided not to bother anymore, but keep my eyes and ears open. Recently (about a year after the start of this tale), she and him broke up, I asked him if he was ok, he was, almost the next day, she was in another relationship, I finally decided not to bother and finally not wonder about her. For those wondering why I didn't ask if she was ok, I'd only known her for a year, whilst I'd known my old friend for eight years, so it was more natural to ask him. I wonder what would have happened if I'd asked her first...well, for now, it is a closed book.

This troper is in love with her Chemistry lab partner, who has told her that he "like[s] [me] in a normal, non-weird way." The only thing that keeps her together is knowing that she'll be happy just seeing his smiling face, even if it's not her who makes him happy. .....This troper has a ''thing'' for smiles... when she was a small child, nobody EVER smiled at her. It... hurt

Twin? Trust me, I know how it feels to never be smiled at.

MASSIVE hugs and smiles to the both of you.

Actually, I like hugs for the very same reason...

This Troper FINALLY worked up the courage to ask the guy she's had a crush on for a year and a half out on a date. He said 'yes', but on the way back to her dorm, he said that he was "hanging out" with someone. That someone happened to be a very dear friend who has had absolute SHIT luck with men. So, the troper took said friend aside and said that if she really wanted to date the guy, she could. She did, so @/{{Muse}} gave her blessing and stepped aside. It HURT, but she needs him more than I do, and he seems genuinely happy with her.

This troper is a horrible subversion. My girlfriend of two years came to me one day and confessed that she had developed feelings for a good friend back home while I was away at school (I'm two years older). I told her that I wouldn't have a problem with her dating him while I was away, because I preferred that she be happy with him than be tortured by what-ifs with me. That's what I said. But what I ''thought'' was that she would have her time with this guy, and then realize that she preferred me and the business would be done with. Cut to three months later, and I'm of course gobsmacked that she's choosing him. The moral of the story is that karma's a bitch, since we attend the same school now, and she frequently turns to me for support in different things. On the one hand, it's nice to have a friend who knows all your secrets and that you can say anything to (she knows things about me that I've never told anyone else), but on the other hand, it's miserable when I haven't moved on and she's happy as a clam. It's what I get, I suppose.

@/TrevorS met a certain wonderful woman and I came to admire her, for she was lovely on every level. It became clear to me that her marriage was severely damaged, if perhaps not completely wrecked. "Abusive" is much too strong a word for her husband, but he had barely taken note of her existence since the birth of their child, and for many years after. I can understand how a man might feel emotionally threatened by his infant child, but I can't accept that he allow it to control his behavior for years on end. He was the only man I ever really I wanted to punch out, but I didn't - besides being uncivilized, she wouldn't have approved. She, perhaps foolishly, was holding out for the marriage to fix itself, but I advised her to seriously contemplate a divorce. By this time she felt alive for the first time in years, as I provided real emotional support. She told me she would confront him, and everything became clear to me suddenly. I gave her a rose and wished her luck, and I haven't spoken with her since. It was a decision she had to make without me contaminating her judgment. I only hope it worked, and that she is happy now. I seemed to be over it, but my best friend just got married, and now I'm a wreck again over what could have been, and afraid of what I might become: If he who hunts monsters becomes a monster, and if I hate neglectful husbands, what does that mean for me?

Tropers/KamuiValentine has been wanting to crawl under a rock from this trope. She's recently fallen in love with her friend whose already in a relationship, and she's trying to be mature and play this trope straight by supporting her friend. But her most recent trip home after college didn't help and now this troper is stuck in a cycle of HeroicSelfDeprecation because of the events of the trip and her previous relationship destroying her personality. With any luck an opportunity may one day emerge, until then this troper will be under a rock.

This troper is a transguy and pretty much asexual (though not aromantic, I just prefer emotional relationships over physical ones) but has a terrible crush on one of the girls in his class. She's very cute, cuddly and extremely intelligent and funny (she has a very dark sense of humour, which crashes quite adorabely with her appereance) and she's also the class rep, but not very popular with the 'cool kids', which I frequently hang out with. I also get quite upset when they're talking bad about her, so I try to divert the conversation somewhere else...Recently, she admitted that she had a crush on an old elementary school friend of mine. Of course I'd love to confess to her (I can be quite possessive and jealous at times) but I figured I'd rather see her happy with him than destroy our friendship...

This troper is this way with both my two best friends who I love very dearly, and also, my...ex-fiance. I would love to get together with them, preferably all three of them, but...I know they're happier with each other, so I just stay back, help them get gifts for each other, and stuff like that. Because, after all, who would want a broken, complete monster like me? It's all the happiness I need, seeing them happy.

I have gone through both sides of this, though admittedly the first instance was my fault. The confession of the StudentCouncilPresident--who at that time was a very good friend--left me so shocked that I pretty much turned him down, but I only ended up falling for him by the time he got into a relationship with my friend. I confessed to him after having him persuade me to tell him who I liked, but we agreed to forget about it and get along normally, because I believed they were happy with each other. It turned out that I was really still the one he liked, and they broke up two weeks later. I blamed this on myself and tried to remind him of how much my friend loved him while being a shoulder to lean on for said friend, who didn't know about my "involvement". But once she got wind of the fact that we were in love with each other, it was her turn to pull the trope. And we had a happy ever after.

A Platonic example here. My friend (Long term) who hasn't really had a boyfriend before. Fell in love for the first time with one of our new friends (Short term). Decided to take a risk on a boy, told him she liked him, he happened to love her too. Even said he loved her first. So naturally I'm shipping it hardcore. I only had one moment so far of bitterness. Really she deserves a shot and I can keep my observances to myself. The irony in this example is that he's way more comfortable and flirty towards me. Either he's a womanizing tool or just unlucky and likes us both. Just she got to him first. I might end up with him at the end of my {{Batman gambit}} and neither of us are possessive of him either. He's a free agent mostly. So everybody's happy #QUOTE# Note: I wasn't in love with him anyway. She loves him more. Appreciates his love more, and basically the moral thing to do is to give him to her.

Well, I've been trying to get this girl for half a year now, and in my attempts at getting her we have become close friends. This past week though, a lot have people have noticed what I am trying to do and this is kind of scaring her off (she's very shy). So now I've become so worried that I'll lose even her friendship, that tonight I'm going to tell her, my true feelings, and then ask to just keep being freinds. Wish me luck!

Troper's case is slightly different from most of the others. My girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago. I felt that I was seriously in love with her, but she didn't love me so we broke up. Afterwards, I still really loved her and couldn't get over the break up. I seriously wanted to date her again. But I knew that it'd be an unhappy relationship, even if she did say yes again. So instead, I kept these feelings inside and didn't tell her anything so she wouldn't be unhappy or freaked out and thus, caus our friendship to end. Eventually I gave in and told her that I still loved her but wanted us to stay friends and she was fine with it. So pretty much I pained myself by keeping something secret to keep her happy, even if it was futile in the end. And for those curious (all none of you), this revealing has actually helped me and now I don't love her any more.

This troper just found out that her own somewhat-love interest (It's complicated.) did this for her. He said that when the two of them first met he knew she would be something special, but he didn't tell her because he knew he was moving, and he didn't want to hurt her. Thing is when he finally worked up the nerve to tell her, he had already begun to date another girl to try to get over this troper. So now it's this troper who's pulling this trope and letting him go with little more than an expression of regret for what could have been. God. It hurts...

This Troper had a short relationship with somebody. She was the first person to profess any sort of desire for me, but we just didn't have the free time to make it work. It's been six months and I'm still not over it. I want to tell her how I feel but there's no reason to burden her about something not her fault that she can't fix. Cue the John Mayer.

This Troper is now well into his fourth case of this. Each time he's fallen for a girl, he refused to tell them for a long time, as they were all close friends he didn't want to ruin friendships with. In the first three cases, he backed off after finally working up the nerve to admit to his feelings as to prevent things from getting awkward. Now his brain has locked in on another friend, and he's afraid that saying anything will just cause a general feeling of pain between them, as well as their whole group of friends.

This Troper has a chronic case of this. The worst is right now. He and his best friend both like the same girl. She's in a relationship with a guy who, while he isn't abusive, doesn't respect her much, and are waiting for her to break up with him. We're both aware of this. We've agreed not to directly interfere with each other's efforts to win her over and be happy for whichever of us is successful, but it's pretty obvious to me that he's gonna get her, as he has just about every advantage (better looking, in better shape, funnier, less socially awkward, sees her every day, etc.).

Well, I loved her for four years, and (for Valentine's day) just gave her a hand-made bouquet of roses. Well, the next day, she messages me and says that she doesn't like me back like I do her, having been confused herself with her emotions... for a few months. I've given up to let her think it over, but we have established that our friendship is key and that I'd support her no matter what she does, even if that means choosing someone else... which is basically the trope in question.

This Troper has liked a few people over the years, but it's always been one-way traffic (except for one... but I'll get back to that). So I know quite a bit about this - it's how I've always been. Yeah, there are times when I think about what they're doing now, but for the most part I've moved on. Being two years younger than the rest of the year level probably didn't help... And the other person? Well, again, the age factor came into play - only this time I was two years older. We still keep in touch from time to time, but I'm resigned to nothing ever happening there. I can only hope she's happy... even if I'm not. And with hitting 18 and never even having been in a reciprocal relationship, I can't say I am...

Love at first sight is very real. And This bisexual Troper found this out. I was in a relationship with my friend. It was mostly us playing around because we both loved acting like lesbians or the hell of it, and took it to a relationship. We had an agreement that if we found someone better, we'd just go back to BFF status. Then, when I was at my Anime Club, I saw the most interesting person ever. He sat there and listened to me ramble about how boring my life was and go through my daily 5 paragraphs of SelfDepreciation. Then I realized nobody wants to listen to that, and said I should stop. He still said I was interesting. Then I realized I wanted to go out with him very much, he was adorable, had that light hair color I LOVE, was very polite, and looked like one of the characters I draw all the time who occasionally portrayed my boyfriend in dreams I'd have. Then I asked my friend if I had her blessing to go after him, and he said I could, she just wanted me to be happy. LUCKY HAPPY ENDING ENSUED! The relationship is going great, and not she's part of it. She's both of our BFF and occasionally our Super-Seme. xD

This Troper had this frequently. Fell in love with a female friend (and realized I must be bisexual), but she ended up hating me for other reasons. I let that go. THEN I managed to turn my attentions to someone new I had met (basically a few peoples' {{Nakama}} got merged into one big one) and grew to have strong feelings for, again a girl... and she started dating another person in our {{Nakama}}. For awhile I just nursed my affections in silence, but I eventually got into the IWantMyBelovedToBeHappy mentality and let my feelings go. Now we're just awesome friends again.

This troper's sister recently discovered that multiple guy friends of hers wanted to be... something more. Several of them, who she "didn't like that way" were instrumental in getting her together with her current boyfriend. At least one quoted this trope nearly word for word.

Yes, mock me if you must. (Closet) Bi guy falls for hot straight dude in his class. We're actually really good friends. I start dreaming about kissing him. Crush gets a girlfriend, and not only do I congratulate him, I give him ADVICE. Of course, he has no idea I feel this way. I just want him to be happy, and I know he'll never reciprocate, so I'll support him as best as possible. Still, it kills me a little to see him everyday. At the same time, I have marginal feelings for a girl one year younger than me, who's gorgeous, sweet, (end pros, start cons) the daughter of one of my teachers, and most awkward of all, we associate as like brother and sister. HER MOM (my teacher) thinks of me as like her brother. I'm honestly not good enough for her, and again, she has no idea how I feel, and I intend to keep it that way. However, if anyone should so much as insult her, I will (verbally or physically) beat the living shit out of them. I will be there for either of them if they need it, and I will always be their friend, as hard as it can be to be around them.

I'm not mocking you I think it's cute.

This Troper has at least two tales to tell about this trope. The first was the less painful, but more impacting than the other. This Troper fell for a girl named "L.C." Now, L.C. was basically apart of the school's local {{GirlPosse}} and This Troper fell for her, ever since the 7th grade. Let's flash forward to the High School, Junior Year. In my culture, it is unacceptable to date a girl until the age of 16, so, I waited 3 years for this moment. The day after my birthday, I find out she got a boyfriend(it was her 1 week anniversary). Was This Troper heartbroken? Oh yes. Was he going to let his arrogance and {{Unstoppable Rage}} get the better of him? Nope. This Troper decided the best thing to do, was to be quiet, and let her go. Because the best thing he could do, the only thing This Troper does, is wait. If he made L.C. feel special, it should be alright with me. The second part of this tale, ran a blade deep into my heart, wounding it. After a {{Heroic BSOD}}, gaining back the weight I lost because I thought she would find me attractive, {{I Got Better}}. However, I had a best friend of mine, codenamed: "Kitty". Kitty, was a girl that was practically made for This Troper. {{The Pollyanna}}, extremely talented, a love of cats, and is a Double Subverted {{Eerie Pale Skinned Brunette}}. I always had a glimmer of hope when she was around. After the fall of L.C., Kitty became the star of the show for me. She had the qualities I looked for, that were vacant in L.C. Still, afraid my feelings would destroy this friendship, I put myself on a bus and stayed out of her life for a while. To make a long story short, she fell for a boy she liked for sometime, and that boy liked her back as well. Despite being fazed, This Troper went up to Kitty, and told her about his feelings. She decided that we're {{Just Friends}}. I agreed. Heck, I even helped the boy she liked try to take Kitty on a date(It didn't go out as expected, nor did their relationship soar). Ever since, This Troper has told himself, even if he did get friend zoned, it was better than nothing and called off love for a while. Kitty is the first girl, the only girl, This Troper ever loved. Man, {{Love Hurts}}.

This troper may as well be asexual, but she once had a crush on a boy when she was in eighth grade. Upon realizing that two of her other friends also had a crush on him, but they were going to be attending to the same high school he would and she wasn't, she decided not to say anything to him about it. It hurt a bit, but these things happen. Hopefully things worked out one way or another and they're all doing okay.

I'm in middle school. I'm gay. One of my best friends, let's call him Ben, has ben the object of my affections for nearly a year now. I love him so much, it's hard to be around him. He's straight, he cares very deeply for a girl. I give him advice and make myself the best friend I can possibly be to him. And on graduation day of twelfth grade, I'll walk up to him and say, "Thank you for being such a great friend all these years. Now that I'll probably never see you again, I can tell you that I've loved you since the eight grade. I know you'll never feel the same way, and I want nothing more than for you to be happy. So, live a good life, have a good time. Hell, kill me now if you want to. Just be happy. For your own sake, if not for me. Good bye, my friend." I have hoped and wished that he'll feel the way I do for me, but I don't care if he doesn't. Just as long as there's a smile on his face, I'll be happy, too.

When I was ten a boy moved into my church with his family and I hated him {coz he was taller than me}. When I got taller than him though a few months later I realized that yes it had been pure hatred when when I first met him but somehow along the way it evolved into love. Now, seven years later as a graduating senior I'm still in love with him but I realized that I have closure and all it took was my admitting I loved him {not even to him but to a mutual friend} and one dance. Yes I'm utterly tsundere. {How else do we explain all the book throwing?} I've learned that if he's happy then I have no business messing it up. I pity the girl who breaks his heart though she will thoroughly regret it too. Yes it does hurt sometimes to realize the future that I could've given up by this closure but he'll be happy and in the end so will I. Just not with each other. Maybe.

With this troper, I have a nasty habit of falling for girls that are way out of my league. I'm actually very good at getting to know them and becoming there friends. I truly want them to be happy. I want them to find the greatest guy in the world, to grow old and be happy with their lives. It's just that sometimes...I wish that guy could be me.

Brother, I feel your pain. Don't give up, my friend, you'll find her one day.

This troper has been with his girlfriend for just over two years now. It hasn't really been perfect, he's made a lot of mistakes, and he doesn't exactly expect perfection from either partner. As such, this has become his entire motivation to keep the relationship going: if it makes her happy, I do my best to do it. Right now, her best interest is to stay with me, because she isn't self-confident enough to remain single and she considers her only other option right now to be... her ex. Her emotionally abusive ex-girlfriend. So I stay. The most recent issue is, quite simply, that having been with a girl for three years and never having been with a guy before, she's extremely uncomfortable with sexual activity with me... which I'm fine with, I can do without that. However, she's not uncomfortable with such activity with a girl, and given that she still has appetites, saw fit to ask me for my permission to sleep with other girls. That's right. And because it would make her happy, even though it is at my expense, I said yes. I have since brainwashed myself through constant angst over the subject into not being quite as affected by it, but I still think it fits this trope quite well.

This Troper has decided to take this option for her best friend, who is in a very happy relationship already. If anything, I'll be there to help her through stuff, but it seems I'll be stuck in {{Can Not Spit It Out}} mode forever.

Alright, this Troper has been trying to avoid {{Wangst}} lately...but I need to get this off my chest. Alright, so, I'm a generally between NiceGuy and JerkWithAHeartOfGold. I'm the one everyone comes to for advice and support, I'm the one who goes out his way to take care of everyone, you know, TeamDad stuff. I've got more than my fair share of ChronicHeroSyndrome, which keeps me from saying SomebodyElsesProblem. I'm a pretty good guy, I think. Recently, I fell for a friend of mine. She's gorgeous, intelligent, gentle-hearted, and endearingly eccentric. I've told her so much myself. Normally I CannotSpitItOut, but I managed to do it this time. I told her straight up how I felt... except, that I knew she had a boyfriend. She loves this guy. He's yet to press my BerserkButton, so he's alright in my book. I know we're teenagers (I'm 17, she's 16, he's 18), and I know this is not going to last. But, I want her to be happy. She thinks of me as her BigBrotherMentor, and that's killing me. I decided to step back, let this run it's natural course, and let my feelings go. Because...when a man does what he's suppose to, it's not always about what he wants. I told her how I felt, told her I wouldn't get in the way, and she seems to think no different. Damn it.

Basically the reason I gave up on my crush of three months.

My best friend and I recently admitted that we had feelings for each other. She's currently with someone else. This complicated things between us, and I ended up turning into a selfish idiot who didn't realize how much I was hurting her. I still wish things had gone differently, but as long as she's happy, then I will be. J., if you're reading this, I love you.

This troper's never had any luck in love, first there was a girl in high school, I liked her for the longest time, but she wanted nothing to do with me. She was the first girl I truly loved, and after two years of fruitless pining,I moved on, but we remained friends. I continued to have the occasional crush but got shot down every time, but remained friends with every girl he tried to ask out. This Troper has always started out as a friend to girls he likes, he HAS to rely on his personality because he's not much in regards to looks, if not outright ugly. Then this troper went to college, and around February I found out that a girl I was going to ask out had been dating one of my friends, but that he had cheated on her. I didn't want to be one of those jerks who dates girls on the rebound, so I waited until Insidious before trying to make my move. We started kinda dating before I officially asked her out at Thor, but then I found out that her ex had asked her out again three days before me. At first I wasn't worried, but then I found out she kind of preferred him because they had history. Needless to say this troper later made the mistake of trying to find out what he did wrong from some mutual friends, they sided with her, and she got back together with her ex, and now I've gone and lost one of my closest friends because I was a selfish prick. I still want to be there for her and support her, but I screwed that up, and now all I can do is hope he treats her right this time. I'm starting to think that love isn't worth the suffering. I've resolved to make any relationships I have (Right, as if I'll ever have one...) purely sexual. No emotion, no attachment, no pain...

In before the epic love story.

This troper has spent the last two months or so helping the first girl he has ever really loved fix her relationship with her boyfriend. I was always the one she went to if she needed to talk about her problems, and I was happy to dole out advice and sympathy when necessary. As much as I secretly wanted her to finally dump his ass and go out with me instead, I knew that she loved him and not me, and her feelings meant more to me than my own. Recently, the night before I moved away, I told her how I feel, and she was pretty okay with it. We're still friends, and we talk all the time, but her boyfriend is apparently... less okay with it.

A friend of this troper did it recently. A was in a relationship with B. A and B break up. A short time later, A goes on Facebook and makes a big deal about how he's loved C for nearly two years, and how she doesn't love him back and how that's okay because of this trope. Cue this troper: "Love is wanting someone else to be happier than you are", unintentionally paraphrasing the page quote. You see, there's a kicker: this troper ends up unrequited. ALL. THE. TIME. So I figured out there was at least UST between A and C beforehand. Shipping ensued...