I use this approach on the issue of my bisexuality. I have no desire to stage a huge "coming out", so the people who know, do so because they have asked.

I wish I knew you in person. We'd be best friends.

This troper would like to organize a celebration...

I go by my middle name. One day, my Spanish teacher, who was told by an unidentified third party, asked why I'd never mention this. I answered, "You never asked".

In a variation on this, this troper very rarely does anything without being asked to do it first. It irritates people sometimes.

This troper was failing science at one time and her mother thought it was due to laziness. This troper let her think so because she didn't really care much for school in general. When her mother found out the reason she was failing was due to needing help, her mother asked her why she didn't tell her in the first place. This troper replied, "You didn't ask." Another time, she was babysitting her younger sister and her sister went to the store by herself. When Mom came back home, Sis hadn't gotten back yet. Mom looked all over the house for her and called her cell phone repeatedly, but she didn't pick up. When Sis finally got back, Mom immediately asked her where she was and Sis told her she just went to the store to get some milk, but had to go to a store farther away because the corner one was closed. When Mom asked this troper if she knew this, she said yes and when Mom asked her why she didn't tell her, she said, "You didn't ask." Although, I was sleeping when my sister left and the only reason I knew she had gone to the store was because of a note she left saying so.

ThisTroper says this all the time to his friends, because he won't tell anything if he doesn't think anyone wants to know.

My ex-wife used to pull this all the time. She had to be really creative because I tend to ask broad questions, "How was your day?" "Did anything unusual happen today?"

An inversion of this in the case of this troper and his brother. Whenever a development...develops that we don't know about, we keep asking questions about said development until our parents decide to finally tell us and say something to the effect of "Didn't you know this?" Our response is normally "Well, NOBODY TELLS ME ANYTHING!"

This Troper has surprised a number of people who didn't know one of three things until recently: 1) She is a Celtic Neo-pagan. 2) She is an actor. 3) She knows archery and Shaolin Kung Fu. Rather justified since those nobody really ''needs'' to ask and it would be really stupid to randomly bring them up for the sake of conversation. She will probably surprise even more people if she tells them she works at a dentist's office.

This troper's best friend is a wonderful example. He is very truthful, and he indeed never tells a lie. However, there is a huge amount of information about himself that you would never know unless you asked the right questions. He is even willing to admit to crushes/past crushes if you ask. But only if. This troper can be bad about this as well, but certainly not to that extent.