This troper has been asked this with her boyfriend. He's chubby, plain, and an average student with no real athletic talent, as well as low self-esteem and confidence issues, but he is the sweetest, most caring and devoted guy she's every met. Plus, he can have a good sense of humor when you bring it out.

This troper, who almost fits that description to a T (except I'm tall and thin and a fairly good student) wishes there were more girls like you in the world.

Thirded. Seven cheers for good girls!

This troper was asked this once by a fellow she found extremely irritating. When she said, "He's the kind of guy who would never ask a girl he knew was deeply in love with her boyfriend that question", it produced a rather satisfying stunned silence.

CrowningMomentOfAwesome there. I have a very good female friend who has a boyfriend who's way under her league (He's an ugly stoner who isn't that bright, while she's a beautiful brilliant blond. No, I'm not interested in her), but I know that they genuinely love each other. At the end of the day, that's what matters. I did, however, say that to a girl who loved someone who treated her like shit. She then explained, and we're no longer friends. "He's good looking and has a guitar" is not a good answer. Ever. Okay?

One CrowningMomentOfAwesome for you. Meanwhile, one of my best friends recently went back (for the third time) to a layabout, lazy (''not'' BrilliantButLazy), TooDumbToLive, crude, perverted JerkAss. And he's ugly. Well, he's not a JerkAss to her (LoveRedeems?) and CantActPervertedTowardALoveInterest seems to be in effect, and he is crazy about her, but still... Just for the record, she's had a RealLife UnwantedHarem ''several times'' in the past, so it's not like she's starved for choice.

it would have been Crowning if you didn't use a sentence fragment.

Seconded that. This troper has a very attractive friend is completely amoured with foul smelling, humongous, stupid to the eighth degree of it and just plain unattractive. With her looks and personality she could pretty much have anyone of her choice, but no, she likes him. It must be the fact he is one whole year older...

... perhaps she isn't shallow about appearance or odour? Ever consider that possibility?

This troper's mother and sisters have repeatedly asked this about Troper's husband. You'd think, to judge by the recurring question, that he was abusive, ugly, irresponsible, or at the very least, bad-tempered. He's actually extremely mild and laid back, fond of animals, smart, generous, and playful. But he's also extremely ''quiet'' and rather shy...so they think he's useless.

... then what led them to have such a warped perception of him?

This troper was asked this by her best friend about her on-again off-again LoveInterest, a TroubledButCute, BrilliantButLazy commitmentphobe. Troper's answer? "You've never been in love, shut up." It never ends well, but after five years, she's still in love... and, for the life of her, she can't quantify why.

This troper's little brother still hasn't gotten over his unstable ex, who among other things constantly told him how she didn't need him yet constantly whined that he didn't pay enough attention to her, threw temper tantrums that gave him some really nice marks on his body and hooked up with another almost the day after he wisely broke it off. Note that he was foolish enough to still insist on being friends, leading to a sort of hope-she-breaks-up-with-him waiting game where she uses him to bitch about her current boyfriend and needs him available at all times to listen to her insecure ramblings, even on early Sunday mornings after a night out, yet whimsically cancels any appointments she makes with him at the last minute. He's forfeited nicer and stabler girls for her, and almost took up smoking because of the stress she causes him. After half a year of this nonsense he told me he's 'really getting fed up with her behaviour'. At this rate, he's stuck with this crap for the rest of his life.

... marks on his body? If she escalated it into physical abuse, shouldn't something be done about that?

I tend to do this a lot to myself. Of course, other people do it to me, as well. One of my best friends went on a rant about why I shouldn't have liked my crush, and then I shot back, "I could say the same to you." That shut him up for a while.

One of this troper's best friends has a boyfriend. Said best friend is hyperactive, intensely creative, a great friend, caring, talkative, and makes this troper smile. Her boyfriend is usually uncomfortably silent, ''only'' enjoys ROTC, is rude to everyone (including his supposed friends and girlfriend), mutters comments under his breath, incredibly conservative, the epitome of the American gun-toting stereotype, and is likely a homophobe (though this troper hasn't seen it proven, yet). WhatDoesSheSeeInHim? As selfish as it is, this troper is waiting for the day they break up, though this troper has ''never'' mentioned how much he dislikes her boyfriend and probably won't say anything bad about him after they break up, either.

This Troper's best friend made her question this for a couple of years, sticking herself in a relationship that was horrible. It was obvious to everyone but her. I mean, when your boyfriend guilt trips you to the point of crying just because you decided to hang out with your friend instead of him...Yeah. I asked myself this question several times throughout the year and a half they were together, especially after her boyfriend cussed me out viciously, calling me a bad influence and a "stupid fucking cunt". Needless to say, said friend learned to never bring him up around me unless it was an emergency. And thankfully, he's now her ex and she's with a decent guy now.

This troper has seen it twice: once in an extreme case of AllGirlsWantBadBoys - a guy was mean, stupid and ugly, yet the girl went after him (to make matters worse: the troper almost fell in love with her, and the guy is one of his worst enemies), even people who liked him (despite being a jerk) didn't understand how she did it. The other, is a classmate of his with a senior of ours, but just because they are a weird combination.

This Troper has wondered this a few times, most recently with a... friend of hers. Said friend was dating a girl, who treated him terribly, and was a bit of an InsufferableGenius {{Jerkass}}. Then again, This Troper may just have been a bit biased. Now that he's broken up with that girl and admitted to liking someone else...well, to be honest, I don't know what he sees in me, either. :)

This troper's sister was in one of these relationships a few years ago. The guy she was dating was hard to be around; he hated anything popular or "kiddy", hated anyone making even the slightest reference to those things he hates (I learned the hard way when dropping a small reference to {{Yu-Gi-Oh}}; one which only people who used to watch the show would understand), and hated my existence (While he's never straight-up given me TheReasonYouSuckSpeech, he did pretty much imply that I would never be successful in life because I still like {{Pokemon}}). Thankfully, they broke up once he became a total {{Jerkass}} towards everyone when he came back from a trip out-of-state to visit his mom.

I still wonder what my ex saw in me.

My ex girlfriend was target ''many'' times with this question and after this troper asked she couldn't figure an answer. So yeah.

My whole family is wondering this with my older stepsister. She's beautiful, intelligent, has a Master's degree in library science, has a wide variety of interests. Her fiance is a really ugly guy with no personality and no interests other than beer, and who didn't finish college. Furthermore, he doesn't seem to show much interest in her; he won't move for her career (she has hardly anything in their current city) even though his would take no hit from it, simply because he's always lived in their current city and never wants to live anywhere else - he won't even move to their own house (it's the two of them plus a bunch of his obnoxious friends). She keeps talking about wanting to change him into something he's not, to closer fit her ideals. We're all wondering why she doesn't just search for the guy she wants instead of making ridiculous compromises to be with one who is seemingly (more than) imperfect.

This troper's best friend in middle school had a crush for the longest time on this {{InsufferableGenius}}/HollywoodAtheist/ {{Jerkass}} in one of our extracurricular activities who wasn't even all that good-looking. She knew that I didn't like the guy, and asked me if I could try to. I refused, stating my grievances, which she, as well as the third member of our Nakama defended this guy on ("He's smarter than a LOT of people"). Um, yeah, but not every smart person needs to be a complete ass about it. Anyway, she got over that.

Also, my mother sometimes asks me this of my attraction to much older men. She thinks it has something to do with my relationship with my dad, but I assure her that it's because I see guys closer to my age as being good friends, and not much deeper than that. So Yeah....

This troper wonders this, but is too timid and/or polite to say it to anyone. There's possibly also a fear of being told ''exactly'' what she sees in him.

Non-romantic example: I have a couple of friends who are loyal, compassionate, trustworthy and generally good people. People wouldn't ask me what I see in them, right? Wrong! Those same friends can also be childish, immature, annoying, weird and downright stupid at times, and they're also misfits. Said people don't look beyond those qualities, prompting them to ask me why I hang out with them.

I have two examples of this, both from my best friends. One stayed in an abusive relationship for years, with a guy who was ugly, really stupid, psychopathic, and liked to hit her. She is free now though. My other friend helped her through the abuse, and encouraged her to leave him, although she is in a relationship with a guy who is grumpy, ugly, cheated on her, and they hate eachother. He is always calling her names and upsetting her, but she doesnt leave him as she doesnt have the money to have her own house, and doesnt recognise it as abusive as he doesnt hit her.

This troppette is pretty sure one of her best friends thinks this about her non-boyfriend. I know he's a dick sometimes, but he's also really nice/loving and I'm no angel either, I'm a tortured artist ffs!

Found out some dude has a crush on me. No idea why. We scream insults in the halls and I kick, punch and mock him on a regular basis. Really, I am generally the most sourpuss, cynical person ever towards every single one of the boys at my school, he's obviously no different. The only explanation I ever managed to come up with is that he's some sort of masochist.

Everybody asks this question whenever they meet my sister's boyfriend. Their relationship can best be described as being like Romeo and Juliet's, if Romeo was the only member of the Montague family and everyone else in the entire world was the Capulet family. And it's even more like Romeo and Juliet in that she basically abandoned her family for some guy she barely knows.

My girlfriend was asked this and the person asking pretty much said "can't be his looks, definitly not his personality, unlikely to be his *ahem* and even more unlikely to be good in bed so what is it?" ironically in my gf's eyes she's wrong on all those points, kinda hurt that the person asking was a girl I had a crush on though.

This troper, as the only single person in his circle of friends, views relationships as a comedy gold mine, and often turns to this. When one half of a relationship goes on strange antics or says something particularly stupid, I will often say, "Can I ask you a personal question? What did you see in ?"

This troper's girlfriend's family say this about me - they're pretty conservative, and I'm...not. Also, your sixteen-year-old daughter going out with a younger, mouthy PerkyGoth with a taste for the macabre, and another girl to boot...well. Let's just say I'm not all that popular with her family and have done with it.

This troper basically believes it's not what SHE sees in him, it's something obvious about him that YOU DON'T see in him.

This always comes up with a friend of mine and her boyfriend. My friend is a pretty, sensible, and well-mannered lady who is generally well-liked and trusted by everyone she meets. Guy in question though is obnoxious, arrogant, has no concept of personal boundaries, and insists that everyone take him as he is, bad habits and all. He has a record of getting on the bad sides of so many people: classmates, university acquaintances, his girlfriend's high school friends, and even a number of college professors. This guy had the audacity to court my friend via text-messaging (a serious no-no). They've been together for four years. The running joke now is that this guy is going to end up as a 'house husband' while my friend climbs the corporate ladder.