TheNotSecret
#125253
This troper apparently does this all the time (mostly because I have something of an inability to use body language.) I told a few people about my feelings for my best friend, so it wasn't a complete secret, but nobody told her. When I tell her, the first thing she says? "To start off...I already knew." Wow.
#125254
This troper apparently has a {{Transparent Closet}}. She said one day "I have something to tell you guys" to a bunch of friends, including her boyfriend. Everyone, in unison, said "We already know you go both ways." In a subversion, this troper is actually straight. The secret was she got accepted to an Ivy League school. Now if only she could convince them of that...
#125255
One of this troper's teammates on his high school sports team team recently came out. Now while many of his teammates and classmates were surprised (but accepting), as he didn't convey many of the stereotypical gay mannerisms. I had suspected it for awhile. Even ''my mother'', who has a ''very'' sensitive gaydar was unfazed as well. When I told her that it was official, her response was, "Well no shit, you didn't know?"
#125256
This troper has a gay friend who recently came out. This troper's reaction? "Wait, that was supposed to be a secret?" Said friend did acknowledge that putting a shirtless Zac Effron picture in his binder's cover was probably ''not'' the best way to keep said homosexuality secret.
#125257
This troper has a friend who is quite obviously gay (he is the living embodiment of every single gay stereotype out there). He was in a transparent closet until his early 20s when he decided to come out. He sat me down and in a very serious tone of voice says "there's something important I need to tell you". I got a bit freaked out thinking he was going to tell me he had cancer or some other horrible thing. Then I thought he was going to "come out" as straight. Turns out he thought the closet was a bit more opaque than it really was. This trope was also inverted when a friend I thought was gay turned out to be straight. Ever since then I have assumed that everyone is pansexual until they tell me otherwise.
#125258
The fact one of this troper's guyfriends has a crush on her is kind of like this. I was the last to figure it out, while all of our friends couldn't believe I hadn't noticed. We don't really bring up the subject much ourselves, but our friends love to for "comedic" purposes.
#125259
One of this troper's friends once confided his crush on another of her friends to her and requested her advice, but asked her not to tell anyone else in their group. It was all I could do not to say something ''bitingly'' sarcastic, especially
under the circumstances. I actually did end up telling him we all kind of already knew, but as politely as possible, and somehow without asking how stupid he thought we were. Second-most textbook case of {{Everyone Can See It}} I've ever seen in real life.
#125260
This troper once confided to her cousin that she had a crush on one of the cousin's friends. Cousin's response? "{{Squee}}! You're admitting it!" Apparently, most of her {{Nakama}} knew about it, although nobody else picked up on it.
#125261
One of this troper's friends was so obviously bisexual (like, has a tendency to randomly feel dudes up), that when he finally decided to make it official, everyone just shrugged. Even he didn't expect it to come as a surprise. Though oddly, his parents still don't know.
#125262
This troper had a crush on one of her best friends. He had a crush on her too. Most people noticed without having to be told. Actually, we were the only people who ''didn't''
notice until we flat-out told each other.
#125263
This Troper's father has a thing for transvestism. Although we don't discuss it in mixed company, it was painfully obvious even when I was just a little tyke (Sure Daddy, it's a "halloween costume"). He would probably be a great drag queen if he just shaved!
#125264
This troper had a huge crush on one of her friends that she kept to herself for almost an entire school year before finding out that pretty much everyone she knew could see it, including the object of her affection. Then almost the exact same thing happened with a different guy the next year. This time the guy himself remained oblivious, but all of her other friends somehow knew. She still doesn’t know what she did to make it so obvious.
#125265
This troper one day was told by a girl that she had fallen for him. This came as no surprise to this troper, who had put two and two together about two weeks earlier.
#125266
I'm startting to wonder if my bisexuality has become something like this to my friends and family. The fact that most of them met me when I was dating a girl, or at a party where I embarrassed myself in matters of the heart, has probably thrown them off somewhat.
#125267
This Troper's Mom has a bad habit of figuring out who all her crushes are. #QUOTE# '''Troper:''' "Mom, when I want to impress a boy what should I-," #QUOTE# '''Mom:''' "Well, [my crush's name] likes bikes doesn't he? Why don't you practice riding them more?" #QUOTE# '''Troper:''' -gaping- "Y-you- h-how did you!?!?" #QUOTE# '''Mom:''' "...Um, was I...not supposed to know?"
#125268
This Troper recently came out as bisexual. The response? "Yeah, we know."
#125271
This Troper was the only person actually surprised by the revelation that the girl he was
trying not to admit he liked was in fact passionately in love with him. Though making a throwaway remark to the effect of, "If I ever meet a girl who gets the joke when I quote TheHitchhikersGuideToTheGalaxy I'll marry her!" and having said girl go out and buy it the very next day should have been a hint...
#125273
This troper worked with a guy whose sister had a crush on him. For the longest time, I was the only one who didn't know. We dated whenever she was in town (she lived a few hours away) and for some reason, I thought this was a big secret between her and me. I found out that everyone knew about it at an event where her sisters and her brother and his wife were present when her brother's wife said something specific about me that could have only been discussed in the context of sex. It wasn't unflattering, but still embarassing, especially considering how everyone just laughed and laughed harder when they realized I thought it was supposed to be a secret. Her brother would occasionally bring it up at work, too.
#125274
This troper and her husband used to work together before they were dating. The UnresolvedSexualTension was common knowledge to everyone except, of course, the parties involved. Later -- at the wedding, actually -- one of their coworkers finally said that whenever they were both out of hearing, everyone who sat near them in the office would ask each other, "Why don't they just go out and get it over with?"
#125275
Years later, the same troper is the subject of her neighbor's teenaged grandson's first crush. Apparently, nobody is supposed to be aware of his feelings, even after he learned to play the theme music from the original ''LegendOfZelda'' on an ocarina just because he knew she liked it. Troper adores him, but he's half her age (and she's still married); it must be said, though, that he's going to make some girl-nerd very happy one day.
#125276
This troperette has an obsession with bondage. She once decided to make it official to her best friends
Kaycee and
Ronnie (a [[SamusIsAGirl gal). Here's the dialogue: #QUOTE# Me: Um...Sit down, guys, I have somethin' to tell you... #QUOTE# Kaycee: You're going to direct the {{Deadpool}} movie?! That's awesome! #QUOTE# Me: No... #QUOTE# Ronnie: You're gay and you have a crush on one of us? #QUOTE# Me: No, not that... #QUOTE# Kaycee: You're a MagicalGirl who fights evil all the time and you're dating
Ash Ketchum! #QUOTE# Me: No! #QUOTE# Ronnie: You're into Twilight? #QUOTE# Me: BONDAGE! I LIKE BONDAGE, OKAY?! #QUOTE# Ronnie: That was your secret? Really? #QUOTE# Kaycee: I went on your computer a month ago and I was happily looking at all these pictures that incidentally had people all tied up in elaborate positions... #QUOTE# Ronnie: Hey, she told me. #QUOTE# Me: (looking epically shocked)
#125277
This troper and her girlfriend were close friends before they got together, and this troper thought she'd hidden her crush on her pretty well. When they came out, the reaction from basically all their friends (and this troper's mother) was "what took you so long?"
#125278
My freshman year in college, a close friend and I were chasing after the same girl, covertly, as I thought. Flash forward two years later, he was my roommate, the two have been dating for almost 3 years and contemplating marriage. I finally admit my early affections to the "rival". His response? "Yeah, I kinda guessed".
#125279
This troper has been harbouring something of a crush to one of his best friends. He knew that one of his other friends knew the secret, but when he told the rest of his {{Nakama}} this secret (excluding his crush, of course), he was rather surprised to realise that they had already guessed his crush, and were wondering what took him this long to admit it. This troper's reaction was a mixture of relief and irriation at being so obvious.
#125280
This troper has a friend whose obsession with Yaoi goes overboard, and who worries more about his hair than she does. In fact, he worries more about THIS TROPER'S hair than she does. We teased him about being gay for months (Most of us are pan or bisexual). When he came out as bi, we laughed at him and continued to deny the possibility that he could be attracted to women. When he told us a few weeks later that he was just testing our reactions, and he was completely gay, we laughed more. Apparently, he really thought we didn't know.
#125281
Back in January,
Mira-chan got into a little bit of trouble in the library for hushing her friends loudly when they started singing a song she had written specifically for her LoveInterest (complete with name-dropping), who was in the library at that time as well with his own friends. However, said LoveInterest had already announced on Facebook that he loved Mira-chan a few days before, and Mira-chan had already given him a copy of the song weeks before that day, so... yeah.
#125282
A week ago, This troper told his friend what he thought was a huge secret. It went something like this: #QUOTE# Me: Hey, so.. #QUOTE# Friend: Yeah? #QUOTE# Me: I'm schizophrenic. #QUOTE# Friend: Haven't you been schizophrenic for a while? #QUOTE# Me: Um... well... #QUOTE# Friend: It's sorta obvious. Why, did you just find out? #QUOTE# Me: Well, yeah...
#125283
This troper took a year to realize that he had feelings girl he'd been spending every lunch with for his entire freshman year, while the two of... This third person business irritates me. The two of us were finishing each other's sentences, had all the same interests (nerdy, nerdy interests), and never were apart. About six days after I realized I had feelings, I told some of my friends. They looked at me for a while, then one of them raised an eyebrow and said, "Wait,
you didn't know?"
#125284
I recently came out as gay to my mother and friends. Following are their responses:
#125285
-> '''Mom:''' Figured you were bisexual.
#125286
-> '''Friend 1''': Yea saw that coming.
#125287
-> '''Friend 2''': Well...it's you.
#125288
This Troper had sort of a Friend with Benefits situation going on with one of the girls in our group of friends. Because of certain factors as well as the issue of floorcest, we were largely keeping it hidden, or at least thought we were. Eventually we found out that our whole group of friends had picked up on it, and most of the floor had sooner or later.
#125289
This Troper and her ex-boyfriend before they got together. We had (and still have) about fifteen mutual friends, and they all knew that we were in love with each other for months before we actually got together. I was apparently blatantly obvious about it, since I didn't know I was in love with him and thus had no I idea I even had anything to be blatantly obvious about.
#125290
This Troper decided to finally tell a long-time friend about identifying as Otherkin. General response was along the "And this is supposed to be news to me... How, again?" lines.
#125291
Are you me? No, wait, I never told him... and I'm one of those few Otherkin who knows that the basic concept is pretty much impossible, but still feels that way anyway. You may look down on me now.
#125292
This troper has Asperger's Syndrome. Subverted by TheReveal because it got him kicked out of the Navy- easy enough to ignore without a diagnosis, unwaiverable with one.
#125293
There was one time I had a crush on a girl and one of our comrades would frequently {{Lampshade}} it. He also liked to crack jokes that crossed into DudeNotFunny territory.
#125294
When, after heavy denial, I finally admitted my bisexuality my friend's responses were 'No shit' and 'Well duh.' They knew I was bisexual before I knew I was!
#125295
This trope applies to this troper so much she wishes they* would just come out with it. (* = Me and my crush/non-boyfriend/stalker/secret lover). It would be the greatest non-suprise ever. It's not a secret something is between us. Despite what his hopefully former best friend seemed to think.
#125296
Yet another TransparentCloset story: #QUOTE#'''BFF''': I need to tell you something.\\ '''Me''': Okay.\\ '''BFF:''' I'm, uh, I'm gay.\\ '''Me''': Yeah, okay. What did you want to tell me?\\ '''BFF''': (jaw hits floor)
#125297
When I came out to my dad.... I'd forgotten that I already told him that I was questioning my sexuality a few years back, and that he had apparently sorted that out in the time between. Whoops.
#125298
Not sure if this is a proper example but: #QUOTE#'''Leader''': Andrew how come you're eating a McFlurry?\\ '''Andrew''': I can't eat the ice cream so I got one of these, since I can't eat dairy and this doesn't have dairy in it.\\ '''Me and Resident Smart Guy''': That's not made from dairy?!\\ '''Andrew''': Well, yeah.
#125299
On many occasions in my life. Biggest one probably has to be my great uncle, who is very obviously gay (and fairly stereotypical in some respects), but no one in the family will say it outright. And it's not supposition, either--he's lived with the same man for fifteen years, was in the Navy in the 70s and owned a womens clothing resale shop called Absolutely Fabulous. Most revealing, though, was an obituary for his partner's mother that actually referenced my great uncle as '____'s partner.' Seriously, it's not a big secret, but nobody in the family will just tell you. It's like a secret everyone has to figure out on their own.
#125300
Additionally, when I came out as bi, most of my friends just shrugged and said, "Uh, yeah?" Same goes for several guys at my former high school and college--they came out, and all people said was that they didn't realize it had been a secret.
#125301
Non-sexuality example: a guy at school was fairly obviously interested in me, but I wasn't sure how I felt. It took him nearly two months to spit it out, but when he finally admitted he liked me, I just said, "I know." (We dated for a while, but it didn't work out.)
#125302
A friend told me in strictest confidence his real name. I thought it unlike him to get dramatic about anything, much less something so trivial, plus it was
cool yet unlikely enough to be dubious. When another friend let it slip openly, I was caught off-guard, and tried to play dumb. But apparently he'd told enough ppl who spread it that it wasn't a secret to anyone except the original friend. When he came around, we all screwed with him by acting like it was the most ridiculous and shameful scandal. Teasing him about it became a RunningGag for months.
#125303
My second pregnancy was general knowledge to most of my family and co-workers several weeks before I "officially" announced it. Frequent and violent bouts of MorningSickness make it a lot harder to keep a lid on these things.