I had a rather sad case tonight, at a party for the volunteers at a Sociology conference. We was a group sitting at a table, talking about random stuff. One beautiful woman mentioned despising a movie that made fun of her home country. One guy said it was a good movie, and as they was jokingly bickering back and forth the woman said she would spank him. So far so good.\\ \\ I certainly didn't mean to look annoyed or anything. If I did in fact look annoyed, then it was because she was flirting with him instead of with me. However, she looked scared and blurted out something about how she had only been joking, as if she thought I was judging her as deviant. I replied that it doesn't matter to me if she was joking or not, but later that evening one of her friends took a chance to hold a little "BDSM is okay" speech to me just in case I was really condemning at heart.

Technically its not a kink but fits here anyway. This way has essentially become my preferred way for coming out. Thing is, I simply don't make a big deal out of my homosexuality. So, when I came out to my friends, it was basically me making an offhand comment about my boyfriend while we discussed relationships. It doesn't mean I am not careful with where and when I make the drop. But I find that people don't make a big deal if I don't make a big deal. Turned out none of them were surprised anyway.

Same for this troper. She's very good at the pronoun game and a new friend only realised she was gay when she mentioned having gone (unsuccessfully) on the pull at a gay bar.

I have a friend who will say things in this vein (don't wanna get specific and make them identifiable, sorry) and only realize later (or when people react) just ''how epic'' what she just said was. I've also accidentally turned more than one friend on by mentioning something that I didn't know they were into (like, what one character might do to another, or jokingly talking about what I might do to someone or the other way around... for example, detailing how I might kidnap and restrain them in order to make them watch that movie I can't believe they haven't seen yet. Sometimes you get far enough into the description and you get "Mmm, I wish."

You shouldn't talk up your friend's remarks and refuse to elaborate.

This troper has an innocent little love for all things Victorian/Burton. I'm actually wearing a corset right now. My (male) best friend has known about my kink for years, and decided to tell my (first-ever) boyfriend about my {{casual kink}}. Ohshit. #QUOTE# '''Best Friend:''' Hey Rogerrrr. #QUOTE# '''Boyfriend:''' Zup. *grin* Doesn't Ray look pretty today? #QUOTE# '''Best Friend:''' Yeah man, teeny waisty! So her new corsets have come in the mail then, eh? #QUOTE# '''Boyfriend:''' ..Corset? #QUOTE# '''Me:''' *walks towards the two* #QUOTE# '''Boyfriend:''' Corsets? #QUOTE# '''Best Friend:''' You kidding? You know you won't get her in bed until you look gloriously Burtonesque, right? #QUOTE# '''Boyfriend:''' *confused wide eyes* Whoa, you're wearing a corset? #QUOTE# '''Me:''' *blushes beet red* Maybe? #QUOTE# '''Best Friend:''' *unabashed giggle* #QUOTE# '''Me:''' *watches in horror as they exchange glances* #QUOTE# *terribly long pause* #QUOTE# '''Boyfriend:''' ...Fucking hot.

This troper once lamented to a friend that since graduating from university, the lack of deadlines made it hard for her to get motivated to finish writing projects in a timely manner. The friend suggested that perhaps she should ask the director of her plays to enforce deadlines for her, and this conversation ensued. #QUOTE# "My profs could fail me. What's he gonna do, spank me?" #QUOTE# "...would that be a punishment or a reward?"

I do this everyone once in a while with certain company.

I once had this gem of a conversation: #QUOTE# '''My cousin:''' "So...you're a masochist. #QUOTE# '''Me:''' "Yeah." #QUOTE# '''Them:''' "Cool. Wanna go get some cake or something?"