This troper and her ex boyfriend. We dated, but had to end it because of issues at work. We are now best friends because we cared too much to be apart, and its a fantastic friendship

This troper and her best guy friend. We briefly considered dating, but shot down the idea because it would just be too squicky.

This troper used to date one of her best friends. I had to break it off, because I didn't have feelings for him beyond that. Unfortunately, while he remains one of my best friends, we can't see each other anymore because of his overwhelming urge to kiss me. We've also basically stopped talking. It sucks.

As someone who is the guy in such a situation (well, not quite there yet, but soon will be, as we seem to argue more than talk) I can tell you it's no good on either side. Despite wanting to be friends for her sake, this troper can't seem to hold his actual feelings off. It sucks for everyone involved.

Another guy in this situation who actually does still hang out (in person) with the girl involved. It's difficult but it kinda helps if she doesn't exactly go out of her way to be gorgeously stunning and I try to not sit close to her (damn pheromones are one of the most attractive bits). It does get better over time, and calls/texts/internet chats are far easier on the guy since he gets the pleasure of your company without being teased by...well you. You can't really help with this last bit, but it also helps when he finds someone else he gets interested in. Well, unless they're jealous and unreasonable about it.

This troper had this with a very close female friend, until we realized that we both love each other. We're both emotionally unhealthy and spent two weeks doing our utmost best to get the other one to hate us so we could be apart. We've since realized that's impossible. Now, we're friends, but occasionally we have a discussion about whether we should be together. She thinks we shouldn't because we caused each other misery, and I think we should because we make each other happy now. And, of course, there are other problems, such as her parents absolutely hating me (our period of trying to get apart ended because she cut her wrists). ThereAreNoTherapists, by the way. Her parents refuse to accept she might need help and I've absolutely hated every single therapist I've ever been to, and I've sorta been relying on a third person for emotional support.

This Troper and her best (female) friend tried to be a couple, because the girls we really loved were both a few states away. The relationship lasted three very awkward hours, and ended by mutual consent; they are still best friends.

This male Troper once dated his female best friend, but it just did not work out. Several years later, we are probably ''closer'' than we were when we dated -- just in a completely different way. We know it won't work if we date, and we care for each other too much to just leave each other's lives altogether, so friendship is the only option left -- and since we've accepted this, it's worked surprisingly well.

This Troper and his female friend both had crushes on each other at different points in time. Before we were friends, she liked me. Then, once we became friends, her crush disappeared and mine began. We then both basically said "Screw It" and are now just good friends.

Two relationships I've had ended because of this. A few other potential relationships I never pursued were because of this.

This troper and her male best friend... Well, we became attracted to each other. We're both seniors going to college in less than a month, and I'm going overseas for my college. We were in a relationship for a total of two hours before we really talked about it and concluded that we didn't have enough time to be really together. But if we somehow meet again, then maybe...

This troper and her friend are going between just being friends and being boyfriend and girlfriend. Basically she and him are very very very very hot and cold and nobody knows where it'll end up!

This troper includes "friendship" amongst his reasons for not dating a pretty and single girl (others include "trauma", "invoking bad memories" and "relationships with my best friends").

A girl ive been plucking up the courage to ask out for ages said this to me only a few hours ago. She was very nice about it though, and im lucky really because we're still freinds.

This Troper lasted 8 months and 16 days with his Ex-girlfriend before he broke up with her for this reason. He began to realize that he and his ex weren't much of a couple, they were more like REALLY close friends. That was his first breakup.

This troper's boyfriend broke up with her because he thought that dating would ruin their friendship, and she hasn't spoken to him since. She might've been a little more accepting to becoming friends if it weren't for the fact that he broke up with her over ''Facebook''.

This troper really doesn't want to have a boyfriend, at least until college, because in her humble opinion the whole "relationship" thing has been made into too much of a big deal for high schoolers. So when her best friend who happened to be a guy started to act like we were a romantic couple, she tried it for exactly one day before getting uncomfortable and saying no. Well, he automatically turned around to date someone else, but by dumping him I somehow preserved our friendship. Somehow. I still don't really get how it worked out.

Invoked by this a non-couple of this troper's acquaintance, due to a truly wild number of misunderstandings. Hijinks ensued. Subverted when they ended up pairing off anyway.

That so sounds like a sitcom plot.

From what I gather, apparently I'm this with every woman on the planet. The ones who have directly told me this, ironically enough, soon ''stopped'' being my friends not long after they told me this.

This troper and her best friend are very much in love with each other and practically soulmates (same tastes, same opinions on important issues), but their habits and ways of life are so different that they've agreed they'd best be BetterAsFriends for fear that they'd end up hating each other if they became a couple.

This troper tried to end a relationship this way, but we ended up getting back together by the end of the day. That was a mistake. But I eventually manned up and ended it on slightly less friendly terms when I couldn't take it anymore, which unfortunately created a new problem.

I was also in a different relationship later on that ended with us deciding to be friends. Well, not at first, but eventually I couldn't stay mad at them. I still have lingering emotions but I've tried my best to put them on the backburner and forget about it.

Apparently this troper is incompatible with every guy friend in her existence. Her crush (who didn't know he was the crush) once shrugged and told her she was just cursed.

I am a straight male troper and I just can´t get this. While I do have female friends, I can´t seem to get the difference between close friendship and being a couple. I just think that my girlfriend (let alone my wife) should be my best friend first, then upgrade to the more carnal deep meanings if you know what I mean. I can undertsand that the relationship upgrade can fail on some people, which is the cause for many people trying to find their ideal couple. What I cannot understand is how the heck a guy and a girl can have the strongest bond between each other as a reason for NOT being a couple, yet they can perfectly mingle with the boyfriend/girlfriend of the week who they have barely known for, what? three hours? Laugh at me if you want because that might be the reason why I´m in my twenties and still celibate, but I just cannot get this idea.

My first girlfriend and I reached this decision after 3-month post-breakup {{UST}} (which was so severe that people thought we were still dating), and now we're LikeBrotherAndSister. This tends to be the reason girls break up with me, coupled with IDontWantToRuinOurFriendship.

This is how some of Edgy's relationships ended. One of my ex-girlfriends end up being one of my best friends.